-----Original Message-----
From: Jennifer Jacobs [mailto:jjacobs@igc.org]
Sent: Monday, September 13, 2010 1:20 PM
To: passagemaking-under-power@lists.samurai.com
Cc: 'Dean Crothers'
Subject: A Woman's View

To "Cantankerous Peter,"

You are asking for the view from the "little ladies," which in itself is a
demeaning reference to those of us women who have forgone life on land for
adventure at sea. My experience is based on 5 years of passage-making, first
to Alaska and back, then down the Pacific Coast as far as Manzanillo, Mexico
and back to the Sea of Cortez, where our 1970 50' DeFever single-screw
trawler currently lies during the hurricane season.  The couples I have met
on both sail and power boats that are the happiest are those in which there
is shared responsibilities for decision-making about when to go, where to
go, and how long to stay. Yes, there are pink and blue jobs- I am happier
preparing an appetizer for a potluck than maintaining the engine. However,
unless your wife feels like an equal partner in the endeavor, it is doomed
to failure. There are many positives to the cruising life for women- meeting
new people, exploring new places, sharing quality time in beautiful locales
with your sweetheart: time to read, write, enjoy crafts, learn a new
language, and share new discoveries with visiting friends and family.  Oh- I
forgot shopping for unique treasures and gifts.  Trips home now and then are
important too- whether for a couple of months in the summer or just for a
week or two to celebrate a birthday or the holidays.

Finally, I would offer one concrete suggestion to you. Our cruising life
improved considerably when I hired a woman captain (SeaSense) to spend a day
teaching me how to dock the boat. It was hard for my husband to stand back
and be a deckhand on his own vessel for that day, but the confidence I
gained was well worth it.  And guess what- guys?  It is a lot easier to sit
at the helm with a cup of tea slowly bringing the boat up to the slip than
being out in the rain throwing heavy lines about and jumping (actually this
should never be necessary with proper boat handling) onto a slippery dock.
You guys are bigger and stronger and my husband much prefers our new system.
Also- people on the dock listen to him about where and how to tie the spring
line, something they never would do for a mere woman.

BTW- there is a newsgroup for cruising women:
Women_Cruisers@yahoogroups.com.

Jennifer Jacobs

m/v Emily B

Thank you, Jennifer.
Well spoken, and b&
you right on the money.

Regards,
Rick Redfern

From: Alan
wagner.florida@verizon.net
To: passagemaking-under-power@lists.samurai.com
Sent: Mon, September 13, 2010 3:32:35 PM
Subject: [PUP] FW: A Woman's View
-----Original Message-----
From: Jennifer Jacobs [mailto:jjacobs@igc.org]
Sent: Monday, September 13, 2010 1:20 PM
To:
passagemaking-under-power@lists.samurai.com
Cc: 'Dean Crothers'
Subject: A
Woman's View

To "Cantankerous Peter,"

You are asking for the view from the
"little ladies," which in itself is a
demeaning reference to those of us women
who have forgone life on land for
adventure at sea. My experience is based on
5 years of passage-making, first
to Alaska and back, then down the Pacific
Coast as far as Manzanillo, Mexico
and back to the Sea of Cortez, where our
1970 50' DeFever single-screw
trawler currently lies during the hurricane
season.  The couples I have met
on both sail and power boats that are the
happiest are those in which there
is shared responsibilities for
decision-making about when to go, where to
go, and how long to stay. Yes,
there are pink and blue jobs- I am happier
preparing an appetizer for a
potluck than maintaining the engine. However,
unless your wife feels like an
equal partner in the endeavor, it is doomed
to failure. There are many
positives to the cruising life for women- meeting
new people, exploring new
places, sharing quality time in beautiful locales
with your sweetheart: time
to read, write, enjoy crafts, learn a new
language, and share new discoveries
with visiting friends and family.  Oh- I
forgot shopping for unique treasures
and gifts.  Trips home now and then are
important too- whether for a couple of
months in the summer or just for a
week or two to celebrate a birthday or the
holidays.

Finally, I would offer one concrete suggestion to you. Our
cruising life
improved considerably when I hired a woman captain (SeaSense) to
spend a day
teaching me how to dock the boat. It was hard for my husband to
stand back
and be a deckhand on his own vessel for that day, but the
confidence I
gained was well worth it.  And guess what- guys?  It is a lot
easier to sit
at the helm with a cup of tea slowly bringing the boat up to the
slip than
being out in the rain throwing heavy lines about and jumping
(actually this
should never be necessary with proper boat handling) onto a
slippery dock.
You guys are bigger and stronger and my husband much prefers
our new system.
Also- people on the dock listen to him about where and how to
tie the spring
line, something they never would do for a mere woman.

BTW-
there is a newsgroup for cruising women:
Women_Cruisers@yahoogroups.com.
Jennifer Jacobs

m/v Emily B

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